Posted on July 20th, 2023

Navigating relationships with narcissists can be challenging. 

Their desire for control and lack of empathy can make everyday interactions exhausting. 

However, understanding their behaviour and adopting certain strategies can help you regain your own control. 

Here's our expert guide on how to take control away from a narcissist.

Understanding Narcissists

To handle a narcissist effectively, it's crucial to first understand what drives their behavior.

What is a Narcissist?

A narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. Narcissists believe they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. However, this self-confidence is often a cover for a fragile self-esteem.

Narcissist's Need for Control

Narcissists crave control because it allows them to uphold their idealised self-image. They struggle with any perceived threats to their ego and use control as a defence mechanism to avoid feelings of insecurity or inadequacy.

How to Recognise a Narcissist’s Control Tactics

Narcissists often use various tactics to exert control. Recognising these narcissistic tactics can help you respond more effectively .

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that narcissists use to make you question your own reality. It can be subtle, such as dismissing your feelings, or more blatant, like denying things that have clearly happened.

Playing the Victim

Narcissists often play the victim when they feel their control is threatened. They do this to elicit sympathy and manipulate others into siding with them.

Triangulation

Narcissists use triangulation to gain an upper hand in relationships. They bring a third person into the dynamic to belittle the targeted individual and create insecurity.

Tips on Taking Control Away from a Narcissist

While dealing with a narcissist can be challenging, it's possible to regain control.

Set Boundaries

One of the most effective ways to take control away from a narcissist is by setting boundaries. This can be hard at first, but it’s necessary for your own mental health.

Practice Self-Care

When dealing with a narcissist, it's crucial to prioritise your own needs. This includes physical, mental, and emotional self-care.

Seek Professional Support

Getting professional guidance can be incredibly beneficial in situations with a narcissist. Therapists and coaches can offer tools and strategies to navigate these complex relationships effectively.

Implementing the Change

Implementing these changes in your relationship with a narcissist takes time and practice.

Consistency is Key

It's essential to remain consistent with your boundaries and self-care practices. Over time, this consistency can help shift the power dynamic.

Expect Resistance

When you begin to take control, expect resistance from the narcissist. They will likely intensify their control tactics, but staying firm will help you regain your power in the long run.

Celebrate Small Wins

Every time you stand up for yourself or maintain a boundary, celebrate it as a small victory. This can help you stay motivated and encouraged.

Conclusion

Taking control away from a narcissist is not a simple task, but with the right strategies and support, it is possible. 

Remember, you have the right to be treated with respect and to live a life free from manipulation.

At Adcock Coaching, we're here to help you navigate these challenges. 

We offer initial consultation , coaching sessions, and support for families and friends to ensure you're not alone in your journey. 

Reach out to us at 15313101061 or [email protected]. Let's take the first step together towards regaining your control and peace.